Lovelife status?

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Everything went well imho between my GF and me, she looked always happy to see me. I also always tried to make sure she felt happy, buying her little gifts and all. We even went away together on holiday last week, and I didn\'t notice that there seemed to be something wrong. She says she gave a lot of hints which I didn\'t notice according to her, but whenever I saw she was in a bad mood and asked why, she told me it way because her back ached (she has back problems). Even her own mother (and sister) didn\'t know of her plans to break up, she never told them something was wrong...

Yesterday she tells me she wants to brake up, all of the sudden. She keeps saying she wanted to do so already for a couple of weeks, because she thought we weren\'t compatible. But when I come to think of it, there were no apparent reasons why things weren\'t working out any more.

One of the main reasons she gives me for the breakup is that I can be stubborn sometimes. For example, a couple of weeks ago there was a major computercrash at my work, which set us back about 4 full weeks of work. I was a bit nervous that period, and could be a bit cranky sometimes. This for example is one of the reasons for the breakup, my stubborness. Is this really a reason to break up? If so, I think she will find it very hard to find someone who will never have an off-day... Every relations has it \"bad times\"...

We had plans to go live together, we even bought stuff together for later on in our lives (kitchen stuff and so on). We even were hoping to get a little house my GF really liked.


Now it seems our personalities are to different (so she says), but she knew who I was from the beginning (7 months ago).

But I can\'t believe this is the real reason. She says it was already a couple of weeks she wanted to break up, but if you really plan on doing so, you won\'t go buying stuff together, or you won\'t go on holiday. Right?

What could the real reason be? Fear of commitment (it was al going fast to be honest, maybe a bit to fast)? Fear that she couldn\'t fully control me (I changed a lot of my habits for her, voluntarily, but not all, and maybe that\'s what bugs her, that she can\'t fully control who I am)? Is it my body (I don\'t have an athletic figure, but I\'ve lost about 20 pounds over the last 5-6 months for her)? Or maybe I was a rebound-guy (she had a relationship before we got together, and could it be she only looked for temporarily companionship)? Or, in the worst case, is she seeing someone else?


There\'s a big chance I\'ll never know the real reason, which sucks imho. I think I deserve a bit of closure. I was always good to her, never wanted to hurt her in any way, tried to be as kind as possible. Apparently this wasn\'t good enough. I can\'t think what I\'ve could have done different to make her completely happy...


Relationships can be nice, but devastating. The last 7 months were really great for me (and I thought for her too), and now there seems to be a void which I can\'t seem to fill...