Lovelife status?

[isoFlux]

If shes just confused, rather than a selfish bitch, things are different, but also harder for both of you.

There isn\'t much advice anybody can give you, tbh, because nobody knows your situation, yourself, and her as well as you do. But, in any case, here is my take on it all:

First of all, I don\'t want to sound pessimistic or just present the negative point of view. I know you know how it can turn out well. You know how thing can end if they end well. That is never hard for any of us to do. What is the harest part is to even begin contemplating what things will be like if they don\'t go so well.

I can\'t convince you to just say \"fuck it\" and go, because a) your feelings for her prevent you from doing so, and b) it\'s probably not the best thing to do in this situation. Your \"I\'ll ride it out\" decision is one that I made, and would proably make in your shoes right now.

However, be aware that \"friends afterward\" situations are not only unlikely to yeild a long-term, serious relationship, but extremely challenging, frustrating and stressful. I know what it\'s like: both my relationships ended with the \"We\'ll just be friends, then...\" attitude. But both of them were very hard on the person who still had feelings for the other (myself in one, my ex in the other, and you in your case).

You having feelings for her is what is keeping you in it in the hopes it will turn out awesome, but at the same time, those feelings are what is going to make it hard. Ironic, isn\'t it? It\'s a tight spot, and one that is nearly impossible to predict or navigate without tears.

I guess all I want to say is, take note: you\'ve got a long, hard, and confusing road ahead of you. Make sure she\'s worth it.

Oliver\'s Law Wrote:Experience is something you don\'t get until after you need it.