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Smithcraft · 09-14-2005, 05:39 AM

Then do it Al!

Stop thinking about her, and move on.

It\'s hard, but just do it.

SC

-=BYE=-RiptoR · 09-14-2005, 06:26 AM

Well AL, you have the advantage that you don\'t want Claire back. I on the other hand want Sarah back.

A girl sweeter, more caring and cuter than her won\'t cross my path in a mollion years...

[JR] · (This post was last modified: 09-14-2005 08:54 AM by [JR].)

But then you have to think Riptor, if she was like that to you, maybe you just didn\'t really know what she was like, what she is capable of. Blinded by love, so to speak. Which sounds silly I know, having been together so long, but it can happen.

I\'ve been in that situation myself untill recently, with a girl I have liked for a long time, that I had lived with for a year. I thought I knew her in and out, I thought she was absolutely awesome. I would have done pretty much anything for her. Then she showed what she could really be like when the mood took her. And it took me a while to realise it, but I just don\'t want anything to do with her now. Infact the first few times it happened, I just ignored it. For a lot longer than I should, lliked her so much I was willing to forgive a lot of faults. But you have to draw a line.

If your ex-girlfriend was willing to just dump you like it ain\'t no thing, and then be cold to you when you talk to her... You have to ask youself, does she deserve your feelings. The answer, would be no. Untill that point you just hadn\'t seen that there was a nasty streak in her, now you have, forget about her.

Thats my take anyway, hope it helps.

[looks around and shuffles back out]

andius · 09-14-2005, 09:37 AM

Za_Goobinator Wrote:My lovelife is great... But when I am not talking to Kayla or around her my life is shit.. What did I do all day today? I slept, because I lost the will to do anything. I don\'t know whats wrong with me and why I can\'t seem to do anything except cry when I\'m not around Kayla, it\'s not much fun...

I only get to see her once a week and it\'s really hard to deal with that, I love her so much and I only have to put up with that for approximately 4 more months, but it has only gotten harder to be away from her... Well, the bright side is that she\'s moving in with me in 9 months so I have lots to look forward to.

You don\'t have it bad yet

You can sleep, you get to see her once a week, you\'re moving in with her in several monthes.

I\'m not trying to one up you or anything, just trying to get you to see things from a different perspective but, I get to talk to allie maybe once a week, and see her every couple of months for a day maybe. When your sleeping your generaly not thinking, not hurting, etc. imagine having to stay awake for about 22-23 hours a day. Now imagine that she keeps breaking up with you, and then a week later wants you back, and you know all along that she loves you but she is too afraid to accept it, so she treats you like shit to make herself beleive she doesn\'t give a fuck about you. And now for the zinger...you love her more than anything in the world.

So, for now just buck up, your going to live with her in a couple monthes...I might get to visit Allie for a day in a couple monthes.

Za_Goobinator · 09-14-2005, 10:17 AM

I get where you\'re coming from Andius, and I\'m not trying to say my life is horrible.. I have it pretty damn good, but her parents keep making our lives harder.. I just recently found out that her parents put a restriction on her so that she can only see me once a week, and that pissed me off.. She\'s not too happy either, but there is shit all we can do until she\'s 16.

You have it pretty damned bad Andius, you opened my eyes a bit and helped me see that I don\'t have it that bad. But when I get depressed things can look pretty bad from my perspective, I usually rant about things when I am depressed aswell and it\'s usually all irrational bullshit too... Best of luck to you Andius, I hope things turn out better for you..

Big-Al · 09-14-2005, 01:54 PM

-=BYE=-RiptoR Wrote:Well AL, you have the advantage that you don\'t want Claire back. I on the other hand want Sarah back.

A girl sweeter, more caring and cuter than her won\'t cross my path in a mollion years...

I thourght Claire was real sweat... the way she had me strug along though... and, she blames me for her falling out with her mother, she just doesn\'t want to face up to what she has done. and as far as i\'m aware, she still is.

Smithcraft Wrote:Then do it Al!

Stop thinking about her, and move on.

It\'s hard, but just do it.

SC

dude, i\'m trying, look:
http://www.lovehappens.com/profile.html?id=61890435

see, see?
that\'s me trying! there aren\'t many girls round where i live, especialy not nice ones!
lol, well i aim to move to canada, so tickles \"lovehappens.com\" seems like a good idea Tongue

Smithcraft · 09-14-2005, 03:41 PM

No, I don\'t see it.

You keep dragging her with you.

Good times, bad times, it\'s all over.

It\'s all about Al now, so rock on, and move to Canada.

SC

-=BYE=-RiptoR · 09-14-2005, 03:51 PM

JR, you do have some strong arguments there... But then again, no one is perfect, and I did know Sarah could have some bad mood swings. But she\'d never \"use\" them to hurt anyone.

The real problem imho is that she can\'t talk about her feelings (not to me, not to her sister nor mother). I tried to help Sarah express her feelings, I even tried \"pulling\" them out...

If you aren\'t capable of expressing your feelings, of letting things out once in a while, you are prone to make weird decisions.

PS: I know I\'m probably blinded by love, but I can\'t help it. You wouldn\'t say it when you meet me irl, but I\'m a pretty romantic guy. Oldskool-romantic that is...

[JR] · (This post was last modified: 09-14-2005 11:26 PM by [JR].)

-=BYE=-RiptoR Wrote:If you aren\'t capable of expressing your feelings, of letting things out once in a while, you are prone to make weird decisions.

And for as long as you think her dumping you was a \"wierd decision\" and theres a chance she might reverse it, your not going to have any closure. I don\'t mean to sound harsh, but if she dumped you, wheres the love?

I agree with SC, its your god given right to feel sorry for youself for a while, but sooner or later your going to have to move on. Whether thats in 4 months or 4 days, is entirely up to you. The only difference is how much time you spend down in the dumps, not being positive about anything. And the longer you let it sit on you, the deeper it can get.

Your still talking about her in the present tense, not that I wan\'t to get all freudian on you, but that tells me you haven\'t gotten over being dumped at all yet. The day you do, you will feel like a massive weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

If your anything like me, your probobly still kidding yourself now, that it will all work out again, and you will get back together and all will be well. There is a chance that i\'m wrong, and it could happen, but thats something only you know. Ask yourself very carefully if you think its likely, or if you should just focus on the future. Knowing that if you do decide to wait for her to come round, you could be wasting precious months of your life in depression, where otherwise you could have moved on and found somebody who was better for you.

[looks around, swears, and takes a seat...]

Big-Al · 09-15-2005, 01:14 AM

i gotta rock on dudes...

now, i intend to call some employment agancies in New Brunnswick. I\'ll get there emails and send thm my CV in english and in french.

\\m/